Well, this is the second anniversary of my blog, Secular Patriarchy! Comparing my second year blogging to my first year the biggest differences are that it is a lot quieter in these parts; not so many comments, not so much engaging in political conversations with people behind the scenes by email, and my pace of adding new articles to my website has slowed down quite a bit (I admit). On the other hand the traffic to my website has not slowed down and I have gotten some free publicity at Reddit and FSTDT (Fundies Say The Darndest Things). This is quite interesting. I would have assumed that less posts and fewer comments would have lead to fewer visits and less attention in general. To the contrary the interest in my site has remained steady with some extra big bursts of attention now and then. My site has gotten a total of 80,000 views so far in its first two years of operation (34,000 the first year and 46,000 views this second year).
I have been devoting more attention to my personal life and personal development; this being the reason for my slowdown in new posts and interacting with other sites. I want to keep “plugging away” with maintaining the upkeep of this site even though my mind is on other things the majority of the time. In the future maybe I will pick up the pace in adding new material or change my focus in what I talk about a bit but right now my first priority is to get my personal life functioning well. Maybe after my personal life is on track then I will revisit what I should be doing politically.
My purpose here is basically to lay out a model for how patriarchy can and should work in the “rational” secular sphere so that those not connected to religion can understand a healthy way to live their lives regarding family life and gender relations. Me being an atheist myself this is my natural area of comparative advantage; to explain patriarchy in secular terms so that people can understand the goodness and value of patriarchy as an objective truth and an objective reality that is true and right and good independent of religious teachings or advocacy on the matter. In other words patriarchy is a byproduct of the natural environment that all should adhere to; the religious and the non-religious alike.
It definitely seems like I am a pioneer in what I am trying to teach and what I am trying to advocate on this site. There are a huge number of MRAs (Men’s Rights Activists) out there and some of them would claim they are in favor of patriarchy but MRAs are all opposed to unconditional Chivalry because in truth MRAs are simply male narcissists. This goes for the manosphere in general I would say; the defining uniting characteristic of the manosphere is male narcissism. Also there is a fair amount of advocacy for patriarchy expressed in largely secular terms among white supremacists in the Dark Enlightenment or Neo-Reactionary sphere. I however am not a white supremacist or particularly “conservative” in general and I think democracy works well as a political system and just basically I do not fit in well with the overall Dark Enlightenment frame of mind. In atheism there are a lot of anti-feminists but very very few social conservatives; the atheist anti-feminists being almost all libertarian MRA types. What I am the closest to regarding my beliefs are the Christian Complementarian and the Christian Patriarchy types. So my purpose is to advocate for what conservative Christianity teaches regarding the family and gender roles based on secular concepts and secular reasoning.
Another thing I will add. I do believe that organizing one’s beliefs around a God concept that one is obligated to obey is the right way to go and in particular patriarchy really is based on male authority; male authority in obedience to God to serve God’s purposes but male authority nonetheless. I have run across women claiming to support patriarchy and even advocating for “obeying men” at least in what they say but their overall orientation still seems to be based on “what’s best for women” according to what the woman herself “demands” or claims to have a right to. Among secular women claiming to support patriarchy there seems to be this idea that patriarchy is “good for women” and that this is what makes patriarchy good and that the feminists were just stupid in their crusade to get rid of patriarchy because of all the benefits that patriarchy gives to women. These supposed “pro-patriarchy” women however seem to think that patriarchy is only good to the extent that it benefits women and that women should be the ones to decide what patriarchy means and what patriarchy stands for; in other words that patriarchy should be under the control of women.
What this website seeks to advocate is patriarchy under the control of men in obedience to God or the Superior Power. Patriarchy is good for the community overall; for men and women and children; precisely because it is God’s design for the family and gender relations. The goodness of patriarchy is derived from its consistency with God’s plan as a result of the evolved inherited differences between men and women. In patriarchy God comes first; not men nor women.
What I hope for is that this website will provide a kind of ideological foundation for well ordered gender relations among secular people and will teach the right kind of mentality and sense of purpose one should have regarding their proper role as a man or a woman. There are many Christian Complementarian churches out there but gender complementarity based on male authority in service to women under God needs to be taught to secular people to.
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