Roosh V (Daryush Valizadeh) is a PUA (Pick Up Artist) who is the creator of the Neomasculinity brand; the closest thing to traditional patriarchy being advocated for by any big name in the MRA (Men’s Rights Activist) world. The idea of Neomasculinity was launched on March 4, 2015.
In the post introducing the term Neomasculinity Roosh V proclaimed:
“I would like to propose the term neomasculinity to precisely describe the developing ideology that has been refined here, on Return Of Kings, and on RVF from a primarily game foundation dating back 15 years with additional influence from non-game disciplines.”
So Roosh V is saying that neomasculinity comes from “a primarily game foundation.” “Game” is the foundation of what PUAs like Roosh advocate for and teach. The point of “game” is to be attractive to women and more particularly to be able to have sex with as many “high quality” (meaning physically attractive) women as possible. “Game” is a funny concept; it is usually presented as something that is amoral; a tool men can use to “get what they want” from women. Yes “game” can be thought of as self-improvement and a means for men to succeed better with women but usually the end goal of game is simply to “pump and dump” women; to have sex with women as soon as possible with the least investment or effort possible.
Roosh V later on May 6, 2015 spelled out in detail his ideas on neomasculinity; under the category of “Sexual Moderation” saying:
“Men have a biological need for sex that must be sated for them to function normally, but if that need is overshot, such as in the case of sleeping with women only for ego gratification, the man begins sacrificing more important needs for fleeting pleasure that will provide no lasting meaning. It is normal for a man to pursue sex because he wants sex, but pursuing sex because he wants to impress others, hit an artificial notch count of women, or alleviate personal insecurities will invariably result in self-harm and lost time.”
Now to characterize what Roosh V is saying here as so called “Sexual Moderation” is quite hilarious because what he is advocating for here is actually aggressive and mindless sexual promiscuity as he makes the claim that men pursuing sex simply because they want sex is “normal” and presumably acceptable while pursuing sex “because he wants to impress others, hit an artificial notch count of women, or alleviate personal insecurities” is where the problems begin. In other words pursuing sex simply to enjoy sex based on the sexual experience of sex is OK and even a “biological need” that is necessary to “function normally” while pursuing sex for social status or ego is wrong and will lead to “self-harm and lost time.”
Keep in mind here; Roosh V is talking about pursuing sex with random women he barely knows, women he will dump very quickly after having sex with them a few times.
“Sexual Moderation” according to this hyper-promiscuous definition; yes sex with multiple random women because it feels good but not to impress others or out of personal insecurities; is actually being presented as a value or component belief of the neomasculinity that Roosh is advocating for and teaching.
On June 10, 2015; after laying out in detail his ideas on neomasculinity on May 6, 2015 including the so called “Sexual Moderation” I went into above Roosh wrote the article with the accusatory headline “Women Have Reduced Themselves to Sexual Commodities.”
I strenuously object to the message of this article. It seems to encapsulate a kind of sociopathic / predatory attitude and behavior towards women; an attitude that sees women as simply objects of sexual gratification to be used and abused and discarded once the “sexual juice” has been extracted from them and then it’s on to the next woman. Then to top it all off the women themselves are blamed for the bad treatment inflicted upon them with the declaration that “Women Have Reduced Themselves to Sexual Commodities.” No, it is the Pick Up Artist, it is Roosh himself as a matter of his own free will who has chosen to reduce women to sexual commodities to be pumped and dumped.
I get the feeling that Roosh V sees himself as punishing women for their feminist sins by being a player rather than a family man; that his acts of sex are intended as punishment for the woman and pleasure for himself. That he is cleverly “beating the system” by getting for himself what he wants and making sure that the woman gets the bad end of the deal as punishment for her not being the traditional woman that she should be.
The opening paragraph of the article states:
“How we see women is not the same as how our grandfathers see women. They saw them as delicate creatures who could be a source of happiness, love, and, most importantly, children, but modern men are stuck with a different breed of women who care less about intimate relations and creating families than pursuing money, seeking validation and attention online, being trendy consumers, and satisfying their hedonistic needs with bad boys or clowns. A man who tries to emulate his grandfather by treating a modern woman with love or care is certain to get emotionally or financially destroyed.”
To this I would say that it is very important to see women as our grandfathers saw women; that if you want to have the virtues as a man that your grandfather had you need to see the masculine role as your grandfather saw the masculine role and you need to see women and treat women as your grandfather saw women and treated women. Roosh states that a man today who treats a “modern woman” with love or care will be “emotionally or financially destroyed.” This may be true. The solution then is to stay away from the dangerous “modern woman” and to pursue a relationship with a traditional woman instead. Stay away from modern women entirely; leave them in peace. Focus on only the high quality women you can safely successfully pursue a family with and then develop yourself into the kind of man such a traditional woman wants.
In Roosh’s article he draws out the analogy of women being oil wells and him as a man drilling for the oil the women as oil wells can give him. Some wells are more profitable than other wells. Some wells give high quality oil; some wells give lower quality oil. With some wells it is easy to extract the oil; with other wells it is harder to extract the oil. It is just an economic proposition. The goal of the man is to get the most high quality oil he can at the lowest cost; with the least amount of effort on his part.
As Roosh states in the second and third paragraphs of his article:
“So what’s left for us? How should we deal with the strong and independent modern woman? We should view them as oil wells that can provide a commodity that healthy men need to function properly: sex. Now that the emotional and familial purpose of male-female interactions are being eliminated, thanks to a woman’s demand for “independence,” a modern man should focus on extracting as many instances of sex from individual women as he can until the well becomes dry. Modern women are too broken, unreliable, and narcissistic to be [able to] give men anything reliable besides fornication, so this is what you must aim for if you want to get something out of the current oil boom. Any other strategy will result in disappointment and failure.
It’s first important to realize that not all oil wells are equal. Some are easy to find while others require delicate GPS sensors. Some oil wells are on land and therefore easily accessible to eager miners while other wells are hidden under the sea. Some wells are easy to drill while others require advanced machinery and engineering to reach. Some wells have oil that requires little processing while others may be too expensive to mine in current market conditions. And finally, some mines have plentiful reserves that last for long periods of time while others get tapped out quickly.”
This is a brilliant analogy Roosh is laying out here but it is also a sinister one. Very revealing of a kind of sociopathic / predatory mindset of a PUA on the prowl. What I find most disturbing is that this women as oil wells to pump oil / sex out of analogy can be presented in another way. A woman can be seen as an oil well whose value as a wife is based on the amount of oil she has in her reservoir at the time she meets her husband / at the time her husband to be falls in love with her and forms a desire to marry her. In this way of looking at things every time a woman has sex with a new man her oil reservoir is depleted a little bit due to the extraction of her oil the new sex partner took away from her / extracted from her for himself. In this way the PUA “drilling for oil” is depleting the marital value of his “conquest” every time he “scores” or “gets lucky” so the PUA is parasitically partially depleting a whole bunch of “oil wells” / women of their marital value to the men they will ultimately end up marrying.
Roosh V should understand this dynamic full well. As Roosh himself explained in his post where he explained his idea of neomasculinity in detail (in the “Sexual Moderation” section):
“The sexual activity of women must be even more closely monitored than men. Repeated studies shows that a marriage is more likely to fail based on higher number of sexual partners a woman—but not a man—had before marrying (1, 2, 3, 4), a fact that should be obvious to any man who has experienced the highly impulsive and shallow behavior of easy women. The results of these studies clearly show that a marriage is at high risk of failure if a woman had more than two sexual partners before marrying. (An additional study showed that promiscuous women are more likely to abuse substances, regardless of her age.)”
Now isn’t it simply a matter of logic that when a man and woman have sex outside of marriage that both the man and the woman are adding one to the number of sexual partners they will have had before marrying?
Applying this oil well analogy to real life Roosh provides an anecdote:
“Not long ago I dated a Polish girl who was 14 years younger than me. She was pleasant enough but I could tell she’s in the middle of her carousel ride and so not appropriate for a serious relationship. I did just enough work to keep her interested so that when I needed sex, she gave it to me, and as long as I was interested in our arrangement, I continued tapping her well to my sexual satisfaction. But I would be foolhardy to try to build a home with her since she is not made of the same stuff as her mother and grandmothers, and so I will not treat her as if she’s something she’s not. She’s an oil well, and I will use my drill to gain as much black liquid as I can until the well taps out, and then be forced to move on to another.”
What can I say about this? Roosh should LEAVE HER ALONE! Leave the Polish girl alone! If Roosh doesn’t see this young woman; Roosh being 35 years old and the Polish girl being 21 years old I would guess in this story; if Roosh doesn’t see this woman as potential marriage material then he has no business having sex with her whatsoever. He has no business emotionally damaging her by adding to her pre-marital sexual partner count which will make it more difficult for her to strongly bond with the man who will ultimately become her husband and he has no business stringing her along wasting her time making it more difficult for her to find a husband while she is still young and in her prime.
Roosh may be right that in general modern women or feminist women do not make for good marriage partners. That is a legitimate point of view, a view that in general I share. What that means is that one should stay away from such women and not romantically or sexually interact with such women. It does not mean at all that one is entitled to prey upon or exploit or take advantage of or fool and manipulate such women for selfish gain. That is totally wrong headed and sociopathic. Leave the feminist women to the feminist men. The feminist man wants these women if you as a traditionalist man don’t and you have no right at all to “spoil the goods” for the men who really and truly love and want and value the women that in your eyes are not good enough for you or compatible with what you are looking for in a woman.
Sex is a serious thing, a psychologically important thing. You shouldn’t be physically affectionate with a woman unless you have a serious interest in marrying her and a realistic potential of marrying her and you shouldn’t “have sex” with a woman unless she is your beloved wife; the woman you have committed yourself to ‘till death do you part. What Roosh V is advocating for and teaching in regards to sexual practice and sexual ethics is completely morally degenerate and anti-traditional and it is socially destructive in terms of the need to put together a social system that works in enabling its young people to establish healthy and strong marriages while they are still young.