Support for unconditional Chivalry is a fundamental principle for TFAs (Traditional Family Activists). TFAs have a particular understanding of the term “Chivalry.” Chivalry is not really opening doors or being polite though these things may be symbolic expressions of Chivalry; Chivalry is the male duty to provide for and protect women. Chivalry is a very important and fundamental concept, it is not trivial or a side issue. Chivalry is a necessity, not a luxury.
For instance, it is the husband’s duty to financially support his wife. A husband financially providing for his wife is Chivalry; part of the broad theme of men “providing for and protecting” women. The rule that only men are drafted and only men serve in the military (upheld in society until very recently) is Chivalry. Women are (or were) excluded from the military in order to keep women out of harms way, in order to protect women. Protecting women is part of the Chivalrous “provide for and protect” ethic. The man paying for the date is Chivalry. The man paying for the date is symbolic of the man’s intention to financially support the woman in the context of marriage. Examples of Chivalry go on and on. Chivalry is a vitally important ethic for keeping society together and keeping society functioning. Men must provide for and protect women, men have a duty to provide for and protect women, the functioning of society would come to a screeching halt if men stopped providing for and protecting women.
The reason why Chivalry is so important to the functioning of society is because women’s femininity must be supported and promoted and empowered. Women’s femininity is dependent upon male support; male support of femininity being what Chivalry is. Femininity is what women contribute to life, to the family, to men and children. Femininity is necessary for bonding, healthy attachments and good relations with others, to create the sense that life is a friendly and welcoming place. Femininity is taking care of the details, making sure all the little things are working, making sure everybody is getting along. Masculinity takes care of the material part of life and the overall structure and plan of life and creates the rules but femininity is what makes sure everything works at the micro-level, at the day to day level, at the level of detail and routine, and particularly in the field of human relationships and getting along.
Without Chivalry femininity collapses, femininity is destroyed. Femininity cannot protect itself, femininity must be protected. This is why Chivalry means to provide for and PROTECT women. Likewise femininity needs to be provided for, needs to be resourced and supported because femininity is disadvantaged and disabled in the field of creating and commanding resources. This is why Chivalry means to PROVIDE FOR and protect women. Femininity is vital for life, the functions of the feminine are every bit as important for the maintenance of the society as the functions of the masculine. Femininity however is dependent upon the masculine, dependent upon Chivalry, as femininity cannot function by itself independently. Femininity needs to be sheltered, insulated from the challenges and dangers and unpredictability of the outside. This is the role Chivalry serves; Chivalry is the barrier between the feminine and the radically unpredictable wilderness that must be tamed and controlled.
Chivalry is based on the feminine that Chivalry supports. The whole point of Chivalry is the elevation and support of the feminine. Men can conquer and control the world without the feminine, the masculine function can assert itself independently, but the whole point of masculinity is not self-assertion or self-aggrandizement but is instead to serve and support the feminine, to serve and support femininity, to serve and support women, to be Chivalrous. Masculinity does not require femininity to support and uphold it; masculinity can simply assert itself, but masculinity has no purpose except the support of the feminine. Femininity on the other hand cannot exist at all unless it is being sheltered and supported by masculinity because femininity is fragile and vulnerable and cannot assert itself unilaterally; it is instead dependent upon masculine assertion in the form of Chivalry first and only then after Chivalry is in place as a barrier can femininity emerge into the world and perform its feminine function.
So Chivalry is foundational to life; Chivalry is necessary because the feminine function that relies upon Chivalry is necessary.
As to why Chivalry is an unconditional duty of men towards women; it is because Chivalry is a necessity, not a luxury. Chivalry cannot be allowed to fail, it cannot be allowed to be conditional on anything because the Chivalry system keeps the world moving, it keeps life working, it has to always be there, it cannot be something hit or miss; maybe it will be there or maybe it won’t; it has to be safe to rely upon it, it has to be dependable. The other reason why Chivalry is unconditional is precisely because it can assert itself unilaterally and independently without any prior conditions being met. This is not the case with femininity that needs for Chivalry to be in place first.
The issue of maybe a woman not “deserving” Chivalry is often brought up but this emphasis on whether a woman “deserves” Chivalry completely misses the point of what Chivalry is. Chivalry is masculine, it is not feminine. Chivalry is a male duty; it is not a female duty. Men owe God Chivalry to women. The woman is not an actor or a participant regarding Chivalry, she is the recipient of Chivalry. Men give women Chivalry not based on what is fair but based on what is right. There is no reciprocal female equivalent of Chivalry as men do not need provision and protection from women; rather women need provision and protection from men. The masculine shields the feminine; the masculine is on the outside while the feminine is underneath sheltered by the masculine. The masculine faces the storm directly without shield or barrier; the feminine is sheltered from the storm by the masculine barrier as the feminine would be destroyed if it had to face the storm directly without protection. There is nothing reciprocal or interchangeable about these roles or these status positions; they are simply the nature of what the masculine and the feminine is.
Chivalry is also a male duty to all women; though what the Chivalrous duty entails is affected by what relationship a man has to a woman. For instance a man’s Chivalrous duty is much more focused on his wife day to day than it is on a woman somewhere across town that he doesn’t know but this is a matter of the responsibility hierarchy different women hold in a particular man’s life; this does not alter the fact that Chivalry is a general principle of male protection for women. When I say Chivalry is a male duty towards all women I mean men are to provide for and protect women not only abstractly as a class (such as women being excluded from the military); but also men should have a bias towards protecting all women they have contact with, all women who are part of their daily routine, all women they have any kind of social relationship with, all women they have an opportunity to protect through extraordinary circumstance, all women within their sphere of influence, all women period. Women have a special status in relation to men, a status automatically established simply because a woman is a woman; this relational status of women to men creating the duty in the man to treat the woman in a protective guardianship fashion consistent with the Chivalrous ethic that all men owe all women Chivalry as the man’s virtue and the man’s duty alone; the woman being only recipient and beneficiary, not participant.
So yes, unconditional Chivalry is a fundamental TFA moral value; Chivalry is the precursor of Traditional Women’s Rights and the foundation of patriarchy. Conditional Chivalry where the woman has to “earn” Chivalry first is not Chivalry at all; it is just abuse and manipulation by the man against the woman. A man has no right to impose any cost upon the woman in order for the woman to receive what she was always entitled to in the first place.